Write down every "bad" thing in your life. All of them. Divorces. Arrests. Losing a loved one. Breakups. Failed classes. Financial Ruin. Whatever you got.
Then systematically eliminate every one of them, and how you wouldn't be where you are today. It might not be intuitively obvious. But really think about it.
For example.... (hypothetically)... if you got pregnant at 15, you might feel trapped or at least held back from some of your goals by having a child so early. But delineate it a bit. Were you promiscuous and having a child slowed you down and helped you focus on more productive things? Did having a child at 16 help you develop a better relationship with your parents? Or maybe it got you away from people who weren't healthy for you? Or maybe its something as simple as having a child that early brought you much needed joy and the motivation to do something better?
If you got arrested for drug possession. Maybe it was a turning point. Maybe it saved you from a life of dependent drug use. Maybe it pushed you to help others.
A failed class? Or failed out of college? Maybe you are cosmically supposed to be focusing your talents elsewhere. Or maybe you had a better, more inspiring professor the next time you took the class.
Divorcing the love of your life? Perhaps you developed other friendships that enriched your life more than your marriage. Or you were free to explore the world or a career you couldn't have otherwise managed.
If you really think about it, you can do this. And if you can't think of any good things that came from the bad experiences, my bet is that you haven't yet learned the lesson.
oh, how true........i've failed out of college and that definately has had me focus on how much effort and dedication it takes..........granted im on the right track but your right.........sometimes the best way to learn is to get knocked down and gradually work yourself back up .........
ReplyDeletethank you. for this this has quite possibly saved my life
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